Are your “friends” real friends?
In this social media enriched world, we are more connected than ever before, but are we REALLY connected? Are your Facebook “Friends” really your friends? If they are, do you ever show them the REAL you? I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately.
Social Media Buzzwords and Fake Gratitude
In a private Facebook group I share with other bloggers/web entrepreneurs I shared a rant today about the word gratitude… I’ll spare you the details, but my point was that the word was getting thrown around like a buzzword when no real gratitude was being shown, and I was irritated because I had done nothing to deserve thanks or gratitude. Anyways… I’m rambling, but my point is we all go through the grocery checkout line and ask the checker “How’s your day going?” And they always say “Good and you?” and you always say “Good”… but is it REALLY good? I’m thinking about Kansas City Chiefs Linebacker Jovan Belcher… How many people ask him this question and what was his answer? I don’t know where I am going here, but I feel like we need to make more of a connection with the people we interact with daily.
So many people are out there surrounded by “friends”, but feeling so alone. We need to make an effort to be real with each other. To share our thoughts and feelings. To say what’s on our mind. If you do this you may irritate some people, but I also feel like people will get you… They will know you care, and if you are willing to ask sincere questions and give real answers when you need your friends your REAL friends will be there. You may also luck out and get a chance to help a friend in need. This may sound like personal advice, but it’s also good leadership advice too. Think about your staff… what do you know about them? Do they trust you? Are you real with them? or are you putting up a front?
If you are serious about building real connections you should look at Craving Connections: 30 Challenges for Real Life Engagement by Crystal Stine. In this book, she will help you create better connections with God, your friends, and your community.
How many social media connections do you have? how many are “real” connections? What can you do to connect better with others?